Just reflect how many times, you might have said this to yourself in the recent past? From simple traffic on the road to argument with your boss in the office to fight with your spouse or a family member to your health - this question "why me" has killed you more than the event itself.
let us dig deeper into why of this question and how out mind plays with us , how we become victim of this feeling and some suggestions to deal with it.
when you feel like this - when such a question appears in your mind few possible thoughts... you would recognize (later) that you have a fixed mindset and a same thought coming always where as other thoughts are possible. Here you go.
First thought - this is happening because of "that" person or persons. They always want me to lose , they want me to be sad. That person wants me to fail. why cant that person do good for me? I am such a good person, always think good about him/her/them and helped him/her/them. God...how much you trouble me?
Second thought - I am done with this life. No hope from anyone and any side. I am asking "death" from God. "Muze uthale bhagwan" (god give me death). Death is not coming only. I have lost interest in all material things.
Third thoughts - Enough is enough. Let me take revenge for this insult. What do they think I am. Am I a coward to take all this shit without any reaction. I will show them who I am. I will make them fall at my feet and beg for mercy and their life. who do they think I am.
Forth though - Things cannot be as bad as they look. I can manage. I am strong enough. They might be under pressure, might be really helpless. They might be forced to do like this. I am staying positive. This is a temporary phase or moment, Soon this will pass. Very next moment can change the situation never imagined. Miracles do happen with me. God gave this as a lesson to correct some aspect of my personality. This situation/people checking my patience and character. I will stay positive and attract similar positive, healing energy/vibration from the universe.
First thought is of helplessness, second is of victim, third one is of retaliation. All these thoughts put you into a perfect dark red negative frequency zone. Guess what will come in your way? more of similar stuff. Like attracts like. Universe will send of more such " why this is happening to me" type situations. More pain, cry, anger, frustration.
When all of these thoughts are going - funny thing just check where on the timeline your mind will be ... it has traveled back to your child hood days to next 10-20 years. It stretches and generalizes current situation to at least next 1-2 years and future. This means you are creating a future based on this one situation which is completely imaginary and like a movie. Like movie - nothing is real and mostly like none of what you imagined will come true.
So relax ....
what is best way to deal with situations. INTERRUPT Negative emotions that put you into negative frequency Zone. Bring in 4th thought (that takes a good possibility) from present bad (however) situation. You will feel batter. That will put you into positive frequency zone and you will start attracting positive energy that will heal your situation and people associated.
Let me know what other types or categories of feeling you get . and how you have handled or handling them.
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